Princess Advice - Crushes₊˚⊹ᰔ

 Hi Princess! I'm so excited to make my first Princess Advice post omg, I hope you like it and that maybe it's helpful >.< 𑣲⋆

 

F(x)ang asks: "I think I have a crush on someone in my class but i am not sure how to tell if I really do. Also I'm to scared to tell my friends and I don't even know why. I also don't know if he likes me back, please someone help me."

Crushes can be so tricky. I totally relate to the question of whether or not its a proper crush or not. From experience, this is definitely the first thing to address here. Take some time to sit and imagine what it might actually be like dating this guy, and try to picture it with him specifically, not just as some generic rom-com montage. Given what you may or may not know about his personality, interests and hobbies, really consider if you enjoy the idea of spending a good amount of time with this person specifically. If you just like the idea of going on dates, and not dates with him specifically, it might be more of a crush for the sake of having a crush. As I'm sure you know, having a crush and pursuing that can be a lot emotionally, and it's best to be sure that it's worthwhile place for you to put your energy right now. 

At the same time, it is sometimes the case that we are reluctant to admit that a crush is really a crush because we're scared of putting all that energy towards it, or worse, getting hurt. If you identify with this, it can be really worth being brave and allowing yourself to have these feelings even at the risk of things not working out exactly as you'd initially hoped. You could end up with something really lovely!

If you've decided that the crush is true, the next question is whether or not to tell your friends. A good friend should be able to respect that this is something you'd ideally deal with yourself, and won't be tempted to spread your crush as gossip or tell your crush directly. You should be allowed to let him know about your feelings in your own time. A good friend can also offer good advice or, and only if you ask, help be a bit of a "wing-woman" here and there. If you can't picture your friends acting in this way, it doesn't necessarily mean they are terrible friends, they just might be very excitable or just not quite have the maturity just yet to be helpful in this situation. If you do feel like you can trust them to keep your feelings private until you say otherwise, it's a great idea to talk to your friends about this kind of thing and get it off your chest in a safe environment. 

Knowing if he likes you back is the hardest part of all. I don't know what your relationship is right now, but if you aren't yet what you might describe as 'friends', I would definitely start there. This is where a good friend can come in handy and help you get introduced. They might know him, or know someone who does. If this isn't an option, you could try and strike up conversation over a mutual interest, or something school related, especially if you've noticed he's especially good at a particular subject! Maybe you need to ask him for a little study advice? Though, never EVER dumb yourself down for anyone! We've all seen Mean Girls, right?

If you've already befriended this guy, this is one of the best positions to be in. Try to chat one on one with him and further your relationship. Eventually you'll get a sense for whether or not you enjoy each others company, and you can broach the subject of a first date. A study date is always a good option. If you feel like you're really having to force something though, it isn't worth your time. It can be difficult to believe this, but you are absolutely deserving of someone who wants to spend time with you and takes a genuine interest in you. There's no point in pursuing a relationship for the sake of a relationship if it isn't going to make you feel happy and good about yourself. Honestly? It was after I learned that lesson that my best relationship ever came along, and by that time I had developed a lot of much needed self-respect. In love, self-respect is one of the most important qualities for a Princess to focus on.

I hope this was helpful in anyway. Feel free to follow up on the advice page again if you like and thank you so much for your question. I really enjoyed answering, it gave me a lot to think about.

Until next time, live happily ever after!

xoxo 

Living in the Dream - and in Reality

 My personal desire to live my life as close to the life of a Princess's has existed for a very long time. A post I would eventually like to make is about the books I read as a small child that I think shaped my love of all things princess, but one I will mention now is a series of books called the Tiara Club. I think I picked my first set of them out at a book fair that came to my school when I was probably 6 years old. Inside the set contained magical stories about a group of friends attending a magical princess school. There was a magical fairy godmother matron, wishing classes, dressmaking, ice skating, carriage riding, dragon befriending - everything tiny Princess Cloudy was obsessed over. 

 

this was my favourite one!

 

I loved escaping to this wonderful world where it seemed like everyone could be a princess (though I was sometimes confused about the overall political situation of the world) but I was also intensely upset that I couldn't literally live the life of one of the princess characters in the book. I had to go to an awful school with an awful uniform, and no requirement for ballgowns, tiaras and dancing slippers. This love of princesses followed me into teenage-hood and eventually adulthood. Through this time I have learned the hard lesson that often times life has to be distinctly un-princessy. As a regular girl who doesn't come from heaps of money I have to worry about things like car insurance, apartment hunting, meal planning and making a living (like most of us do/will). This realisation came quite early for me. I tried to think of careers that might feel princess-y but honestly? I'm not sure any exist in the way little Princess Cloudy hoped for. I don't think I'd even like to be a real world Princess! I had a brief stint as a party princess but I quickly realised that wasn't all I'd hoped either; the parents were often difficult, the kids mostly lovely but often a bit gross (I once watched a girl of 4 dump an entire bag of sherbet on a carpet and eat it with her hands), and the lead up to a party would make me so anxious in a way that would leave me feeling distinctly un-princessy. The plan had been to audition as a princess performer in a Disney park when I turned 18, but I realised that they had just as difficult a time, if not more! Eventually I decided to try the university thing - I love history! That is going well for me and I know what my career goals are now, but I'm probably never going to get to wear a ballgown for work, or be driven in a glittering carriage, or stay at a beautiful castle as part of my job (though I refuse to entirely write off that possibility).